How to Get Your Spouse to Use a Condom In the modern world, unprotected sex is frowned upon. There is really no reason for a couple to choose to be exposed to the harms of sexually transmitted diseases and unintended pregnancies rather than being completely shielded from their negative effects, especially with the variety of birth control methods that are readily available over-the-counter. However, if they choose to forego using a condom while having sex, many women feel helpless in the face of their partners.